Resiliency is not so much about bouncing back as it is about battling through heroically. “Resilience is not a trait. It’s not something you’re born with. It’s not something you just have.”
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Clinical psychologist Meg Jay ( TED Talk: Why 30 is not the new 20) doesn’t like the idea of bouncing back from adversity. “People do not feel understood when someone says, ‘Wow, you really bounced back from that.’ They don’t feel seen in all of their complexity, in terms of how hard it can be,'” she says.
